Think of anger as an iceberg. It’s the part visible above the water, but underneath, there’s often something else: (of losing control or being hurt). Embarrassment (feeling judged). Sadness (feeling neglected or unloved).
We’ve all been there. Maybe it’s the driver who cut you off, the condescending email from a colleague, or a sink full of dishes when you’re exhausted. You feel that heat rise in your chest, your jaw tightens, and before you know it, you’ve said something you regret. subtitle Anger Management
If you can survive the first 90 seconds without reacting, the physical "burn" will start to fade. Step away, count to ten, or focus on your breathing. Give the chemicals time to flush out of your system. 3. Identify the "Underlying" Emotion Think of anger as an iceberg
A brisk walk or a gym session can burn off adrenaline. Sadness (feeling neglected or unloved)
Once you’re calm, focus on the solution rather than the person who upset you. The Bottom Line
Neuroscientist Jill Bolte Taylor suggests that the chemical surge of an emotion lasts about 90 seconds. If you’re still angry after that, it’s often because you’re "looping" the thoughts that triggered it.